There comes a point when eating a family-sized bag of kettle chips, rotting away under your duvet having indulged in 8 hours of screen-time, doesn’t feel that soothing anymore. If you’ve found yourself hosting a royal self-pity party having taken a knock of some kind… Maybe you didn’t land the job you wanted, or you’ve recently been let go, it can suck, and often requires some acute attention in getting out of it.
When the unresourceful attempts to self soothe no longer serve, it’s maybe time to try something different. At this point, I would look to learn something about what it is you’re feeling. Either in the form of a Ted talk, an audible book, a YouTube video or even a blog. It helps to seek out and find some explanation as to why you’re feeling this way. Having been through it myself I’m all too familiar with this process, and hence, I now have a plethora of such information under my belt. These are the three best books you should read if you’re in need of a boost of confidence.
There comes a point when eating a family-sized bag of kettle chips, rotting away under your duvet having indulged in 8 hours of screen-time, doesn’t feel that soothing anymore. If you’ve found yourself hosting a royal self-pity party having taken a knock of some kind… Maybe you didn’t land the job you wanted, or you’ve recently been let go, it can suck, and often requires some acute attention in getting out of it.
When the unresourceful attempts to self soothe no longer serve, it’s maybe time to try something different. At this point, I would look to learn something about what it is you’re feeling. Either in the form of a Ted talk, an audible book, a YouTube video or even a blog. It helps to seek out and find some explanation as to why you’re feeling this way. Having been through it myself I’m all too familiar with this process, and hence, I now have a plethora of such information under my belt. These are the three best books you should read if you’re in need of a boost of confidence.
1. Kick-Ass – Mel Robbins
If there’s one person I would not want to cross while lurking in the depths of a self-pity party, it’s this lady. She defies all butt-hurt excuses and stares in the face of your inferiority complex. Even listening to her has me wondering how quickly she could chew me up and spit me out with her 5-second rule. But there’s one thing for sure, and it’s that this book provides a sure-fire way of getting you up and out of a rut, especially if you respond well to some suck-it-up kinda love.
2. Daring Greatly – Brené brown
I think this woman’s name must come out of my mouth at least 4 times a week if not once a day. She’s absolutely fabulous in every single way, she’s charming and hilarious but most of all she’s full of insightful knowledge that will have you picking your jaw up off the floor with a quiet mumbled: “…I do that”. Unlike Mel, Brené offers a softer and more relatable approach, her research on shame and vulnerability has launched her into the depths of self-development. She eloquently narrates her wisdom with her personal experiences, with importance placed on facing the hard stuff and doing the work, unlike a lot of the toxic positivity drivel we are bombarded with. If you needed any more persuading on buying this book or any of her others, just watch her first ted talk on The power of vulnerability, it’s incredible.
3. You are a badass – Jen Sincero
By now I think I’ve read this book about 5 times, I can just about recite all of the stories that Jen so eloquently tells. This is the sort of book that will make you laugh so hard you’ve forgotten what was wrong in the first place. A real feel-good book that also enables you to see your potential and just how easy it is to get up and get going.
But if you take anything from this at all, know that it’s very normal to experience setbacks like these, and even more normal to turn unresourceful coping strategies. We all do it.
Sometimes it’s worth getting mindful about what it is you struggle with, and if that thing is really for you. What I mean by this is that we often fall prey to doing things because we think we SHOULD. The best way to navigate this is by getting quiet and asking yourself what you really want. If that thing you don’t want happens to be admin, well then, you know where we are!